Speak your truth quietly and clearly.
Many of us avoid confrontations. Like me, I'd rather write you a letter than tell it straight to your face. Because of that, I am often misunderstood. Avoiding my confrontations most often than not leads to more disaster.
As my great dictum states, SPEAK YOUR TRUTH QUIETLY AND CLEARLY. No need to make a scene. No more misunderstandings.
I found these on marcestes.com, tips on confrontations.
Confront in private, not in public – Don’t create a scene, or embarrass someone. Have some wisdom and find a quiet place.
Don’t delay – The longer you wait, the harder it becomes and the easier it is to justify why you should leave it alone -
Deal only with a single iusse – Don’t bring a laundry list and attempt to address every issue that is on your mind. It may be overwhelming.
Don’t repeat yourself – Unless they didn’t hear what was being said, avoid be redundant. Most people comprehend the issues being presented.
Be careful of the words you use - Don’t be condescending and don’t exaggerate of overstate your issues.
Don’t confront issues that a person can’t change – There are some issues beyond a persons ability to control. Be sensitive to the battles you choose to face.
Avoid demeaning or tearing the person down - Talk to the person, don’t talk down to the person.
Help direct the person to acknowledging their problem by asking open ended questions - You might consider asking questions that cause them to own the problem.
Don’t apologize for being truthful – Being sheepish will only minimize the truth that you are trying to communicate.
End on a positive note - Reaffirm your support, thank them for listening and communicate your commitment to forgive and move forward.
