Speak your truth quietly and clearly - Desiderata

Speak your truth quietly and clearly.

Many of us avoid confrontations. Like me, I'd rather write you a letter than tell it straight to your face. Because of that, I am often misunderstood. Avoiding my confrontations most often than not leads to more disaster. 

As my great dictum states, SPEAK YOUR TRUTH QUIETLY AND CLEARLY. No need to make a scene. No more misunderstandings.

I found these on marcestes.com, tips on confrontations. 

Confront in private, not in public – Don’t create a scene, or embarrass someone. Have some wisdom and find a quiet place.

Don’t delay – The longer you wait, the harder it becomes and the easier it is to justify why you should leave it alone -

Deal only with a single iusse – Don’t bring a laundry list and attempt to address every issue that is on your mind. It may be overwhelming.

Don’t repeat yourself – Unless they didn’t hear what was being said, avoid be redundant. Most people comprehend the issues being presented.

Be careful of the words you use -  Don’t be condescending and don’t exaggerate of overstate your issues.

Don’t confront issues that a person can’t change – There are some issues beyond a persons ability to control. Be sensitive to the battles you choose to face.

Avoid demeaning or tearing the person down -  Talk to the person, don’t talk down to the person.

Help direct the person to acknowledging their problem by asking open ended questions -  You might consider asking questions that cause them to own the problem.

Don’t apologize for being truthful – Being sheepish will only minimize the truth that you are trying to communicate.

End on a positive note -  Reaffirm your support, thank them for listening and communicate your commitment to forgive and move forward.